The reason why so many people struggle with loneliness—even in church

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The reason why so many people struggle with loneliness—even in church—is because we’ve made faith too private.

Modern culture tells us to think about God as “my personal Savior” and faith as something between “me and Jesus.” But that idea didn’t come from Scripture. It came from Western individualism.

As the quote in the image reminds us, Jesus taught us to pray “Our Father”—not “My Father.” Paul said “our Lord” over 50 times. The phrase “my personal Savior”? It doesn’t show up in the Bible.

The Bible was written to communities, for communities, and within communities. And that truth is not just spiritual—it’s also physical, emotional, and mental.

We are wired to need each other

Science agrees with Scripture on this. A study from Harvard shows that loneliness increases the risk of early death as much as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. Another study published in Nature Human Behaviour found that people who feel socially connected have stronger immune systems, less anxiety, and better brain function.

Genesis 2:18 says, “It is not good for man to be alone.” That’s not just about marriage. It’s about the human condition.

We were created in the image of the Trinity—a communion of love. That means we’re at our healthiest, strongest, and most peaceful when we live in meaningful connection with others.

What this means for Christian professionals

If you’re a Christian in the workplace, it’s easy to get isolated. Busy schedules, remote jobs, and career pressure can pull you away from real relationships. You may attend church but still feel alone.

Here’s what you can do about it:

• Pray “Our Father” slowly each morning, and remember you’re part of a global family.

• Confess to a spiritual friend or elder regularly. James 5:16 says healing comes through confession to one another.

• Join a small group that prays together, eats together, and walks through life together.

• Show up. Not just to Sunday services, but to the lives of people around you. Be available. Be interruptible.

Church isn’t an event. It’s a people.

Ephesians 2:19 says, “You are no longer strangers, but fellow citizens with God’s people and also members of his household.”

That’s not a metaphor. It’s your real identity. You weren’t saved to be alone. You were saved into a Body.

And here’s the truth: healing doesn’t happen in isolation. It happens in belonging.

So stop thinking of faith as something you carry by yourself. Start thinking of it as something we live together.

Because we belong to each other.